Facts of the Matter

The effects of the loss of a child by adoption are negative and long lasting.

The trauma remains even when contact  is established with our sons and daughters.

The grief does not diminish as in other grief reactions. This feeling of loss may be worse on birthdays and other family occasions. There can be an increase in the sense of loss.

The loss of the right to parent a child affects subsequent parenting.

The secrecy needed by society to cope with adoption imposes guilt, shame, worthlessness and loss of self esteem on us, ultimately effecting our emotional, physiological, physical and spiritual health.

The secrecy damages the child it is claimed to protect.

All relationships are affected by the separation of a mother from her child.