Loss By Adoption

When it comes to losing a child or children to adoption, it is important to understand that there are a number of myths that need to be corrected.

It is a myth that this grief is the same process as other grief reactions.

• The effects of loss by adoption are negative and long lasting.
• The loss remains constant, even when contact is established with lost sons or daughters.
• There is an increasing sense of loss. The grief does not diminish as in other grief reactions. This feeling of loss may be worse on birthdays and other family occasions.
• This loss of the right to parent a first child may affect subsequent parenting.
• The secrecy needed by society to cope with adoption imposes guilt, shame, worthlessness and loss of self-esteem on natural mothers, ulimately affecting their emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual health.
• That secrecy also damages the child it is claimed to protect.
• All relationships are affected, ultimately adversely, by the above effects of separation
• Today's Open Adoptions do not guarantee continued access to your child. You need to protect your on going rights by having your own legal representation at any signing of documents.